Jimmy Sad Eyes
This is a true story.
Since my step daughter went off to college a few years ago my wife and I enjoyed the life of empty nesters. That all changed a few months ago when we took in a 2-year-old boy who was mistreated by his parents and placed in the care of a foster home. All of a sudden I was no longer living the life of Riley. I was now feeding, bathing, picking up after and cleaning up after “accidents” of a 2-year-old. This 2-year-old was neglected and is developmentally delayed and has dark brown but sad-looking eyes. He still is non verbal but can manage a few guttural sounds now and then. Even though we have no experience with a situation like this we are trying our best to teach him some discipline and how to become part of our household. When we want to talk about him we invented a code name so he was unaware we were talking about him – sort of like the secret service has a code name for the president. His code name is Jimmy Sad Eyes.
“Jimmy” has made great strides in the few months we have had him. He has reduced the number of accidents to a manageable number although we always make sure to take him to the bathroom frequently to increase our chances. When we take him for walks he is very curious and chases after birds and rabbits and sometimes even his own shadow. Lately we have had good success keeping him in check around the house with a gate that keeps him out or in depending on our needs.
Now when we go out we are not looking for a new set of golf clubs or the latest exercise equipment but a new toy for Jimmy Sad Eyes. We are already thinking about taking him for training so he can catch up to the other 2 year olds. What a change this youngster has brought to us. I should be thinking about grandchildren by now not taking care of someone totally dependent upon us. We have a little bed for Jimmy in our bedroom but he usually ends up in our bed by the middle of the night. Sometimes Jimmy wakes me up and I take him for walk to calm him down and of course to the bathroom to avoid an accident.
In the few months that we have had him I have gotten to understand his personality and can appreciate his oddities. He has had a rough life so far and I am glad my wife and I are able to give him love that he never had before we got him. He still has trust issues but we are working on that every day. A few days ago we left him in the laundry room while we went to dinner and he chewed the vacuum sweeper attachment in half. This was the first time in a while that he “acted out” while we were gone. Before you judge us for leaving a two-year old home alone keep in mind that we gave him food and water and even left the radio on for company. Did I mention that our 2-year-old is a Jack Russell-Beagle –Dachshund mix?
When I told you that our Jimmy Sad Eyes was a dog did that change your opinion? If it did, what does that mean? Is it ok to treat a dog differently than a child? I suppose you can to a degree but this dog was indeed abused and has trust issues and may never get over his poor treatment from his original owners. As much as I was against taking this dog in, what were his chances if he was not adopted? Even if we are not doing the best in training him and we give him cheese puffs and other junk food sometimes at least he knows “Grandma” and I love him.
Do you remember my blog about a win-win situation? Well this is a case of win-win and that is a good thing. I decided that I should take the advice that someone gave me and make my new addition to the family a win-win situation. Talk about Turning Things On End? That is Jimmy Sad Eyes to a T!
Have a great week.